Have Kids Will Travel

Our ohana took our first family vacation last week. I was nervous about taking our 4 month old on his first flight across country. I was even more stressed out about all the baby gear I would have to bring. I felt like I would be packing up our whole house for this family vacation. Traveling in general stresses me out. My husband on the other hand travels all the time so traveling with all of us in tow definitely slows down his usual travel process. In the end it all worked out,our travels were smooth and we all had an amazing vacation together. I thought I’d breakdown all the planning that was happening in my head so that I could remind myself how I did it the first time and hopefully have a few helpful tips for my mom friends that are getting ready to travel for the holidays. final1510938870610


I absolutely loathe packing! I think the super organized part of me hates taking things out of place. Now that I have 2 kids, packing is even more involved. To keep myself organized I place all clothes, toiletries, shoes in their designated spacepaks and “go clean” bags. Years ago I discovered these Flight 001 travel bags when watching Samantha Brown on the Travel Channel.  Now it is what I gift to all my family members for their travels. I love that the spacepaks have a side for dirty clothes and clean clothes. Maybe it’s an Asian thing but I absolutely can not stand shoes touching stuff in the suitcase and  or dirty clothes touching clean clothes.I put each shoe in separate spacepaks and always separate the dirty from the clean stuff. I had spacepacks for the hubs, myself, my daughter and baby boy. Since we were staying at a family member’s house I knew I could do laundry and not have to pack less. The Dapple laundry sheets were convenient to pack and travel friendly since they are concentrated laundry sheets.20171031_203940.jpg



I went back and forth on my decision to take our huge Austlen Entourage stroller. It is marketed as a travel stroller but the stroller is pretty heavy at over 45 pounds with all the accessories. I was worried that it would get damaged in flight especially since Austlen doesn’t offer a stroller bag yet. Despite all that, I decided to take it through the airport and gate check it. I purchased the cheap red “gate check” double stroller bag for under $20 and it did the job of keeping the stroller from getting dirty. I’m so glad we decided to gate check the stroller because it was really nice to be able to wheel both kids and the carry-on luggage (diaper bags and backpacks) through the terminals. Since our stroller was too large to put on the x-ray machine at TSA, I just wheeled it through while I was babywearing my little one. I also brought our car seat through and had that attached on our stroller. We checked in our daughter’s convertible car seat that was in a padded car seat bag with backpack straps.20171103_093430.jpg

In-flight entertainment

Luckily our flight was not full. Once we were at  the counter gate we were told that we would be able to bring our infant car seat on board and have a seat for the baby. Score on the free seat!  Entertaining the 4 month old was easy because all he wanted to do was eat or sleep and breastfeeding makes the eating part even easier. My daughter has traveled twice to the Philippines, a grueling  20+ hours from Chicago, so I have become pretty good at finding ways to keep her entertained in flight. When my daughter was a toddler, I used to gift wrap her toys and pack them in her backpack so she’d keep herself busy just unwrapping toys she already had.  Now that she is 5, I came prepared with crayons, coloring books, activity books, magnetic blocks, and of course the iPad. We have a RAVPower filehub to play all the movies we have stored in a flashdrive.  I always pack headphones for the little so she can listen to music or watch movies and I also packed noise canceling headphones for baby to help drown out all the noise. Lastly, the most essential thing to bring- lots and lots of snacks for the whole family to make sure no one gets hangry. You just never know if there are flight delays.20171103_112240



This is where the Austlen Entourage stroller really came in to play. The stroller has a 150 pound cargo limit. Baby was strapped into his carseat still while we loaded the suitcases on to the stroller. Walking from baggage claim to our rental car was totally doable with the 2 kids, 2 car seats and 4 suitcases. I’m not going to lie, it’s hard work traveling with kids but I don’t want it to stop us from taking vacations.  

We are traveling again next week for Thanksgiving but this time it’s a 5-6 hour roadtrip. Wish us luck!




Exploring the World Through Books

When I was a kid, I’d stay up late in bed just to read. I read The Boxcar Children, The Babysitter’s Club, Nancy Drew, and anything Judy Blume. But most of the books I read didn’t have characters that looked like me. There wasn’t a ton of diversity in my book selections. Thankfully there is so much more diversity that you see in books nowadays.

I want my kids to love reading as much as I do and I want them to be exposed to all the beautiful unique cultures in the world. With my kids being half Filipino and half white, it’s important for me that they know about the Filipino culture and their Filipino roots. Fortunately my five year old has been to the Philippines twice and we plan to bring baby boy once he’s a little older and can handle the 18+ hour flight. We try to pick up a new book about the city, state, country we visited every time we travel. When we can’t travel, I think reading about a place or culture is the next best thing.

We have a ton of books at home and I feel like you can never have too many books! I especially love to buy books that teach kindness, inclusion, empowerment and an appreciation for diversity. Here are just a few of the books that are focused on diversity. Since it’s the last day of Filipino-American History month I thought I’d focus on the book we’ve been reading this month, “Filipino Friends.” Some of the  diversity books from our home collection.

This book, “Filipino Friends” By Liana Romulo and Corazon Dandan-Albano was given to us as a gift from a friend. It’s such a great book to teach children about the Philippines. But the book teaches more than just about the country, it also teaches about the Filipino culture, family structure, food, customs, traditions, numbers, words, and songs.A great way to learn about food, culture and language.

The illustrations are super cute and the pictures have the Tagalog words labeled to help introduce the language. It’s a great way for not only my daughter to learn more about her heritage and the Tagalog language but also for my husband to learn as well. She loves the song in the book, “Bahay Kubo” which translates to nipa hut. She memorized it quickly and sings it all the time now. It’s such a great book for Filipino-Americans and really for anyone wanting to learn more about the Filipino culture. Stay tuned to hear our reviews about other books from our book collection. A fun way to learn Tagalog


5 Reasons to Travel to the Philippines

This past year I got involved in Toastmasters International and love it. I do a lot of presenting and facilitating for work so I thought it would be a great way for me to work on my speaking skills. Last year I also gave my first Matron of Honor speech at my sister’s wedding so I wanted to make sure I was extra prepared. I was determined to complete my first Toastmasters manual before having baby boy this summer, so I went consistently and did one speech per month and earned my Competent Communicator certificate a few weeks before I gave birth. One of the projects I had to complete was called “Persuade with Power.” I had to give a speech that would persuade the audience to do something. I decided to give my speech on the “5 reasons you should travel to the Philippines.” I knew no one in my club had ever been to the Philippines so I thought it would be a good opportunity to highlight the beauty of the Philippines.

So where is the Philippines? It’s on the continent of Asia  in the western Pacific Ocean. It is an archipelago of over 7,100 islands.

View from the plane overlooking Boracay, Philippines

5 Reasons you should travel to the Philippines:

  1. Paradise beaches and islands. The Philippines has the most beautiful beaches and many of the beaches of the Philippines are rated as the top 10 beaches in the world. The beaches have powder-fine white sand and clear turquoise blue waters. The views are incredibly gorgeous and the marine life is extremely diverse. The beaches in the Philippines are one of the best assets of the island country.

    Boracay, Philippines
  2. Food and drinks. The cuisine in the Philippines is a mix of Spanish, Chinese, and American food. The food is always super flavorful and Filipinos are all about those sauces and spices. Some of the most popular dishes are often meat dishes, such as adobo. But if you don’t eat meat there is an endless amount of delicious seafood. Whether you are on the beach or in the city, you’ll find local street food. Banana cue is one of my favorites. It’s deep fried bananas caramelized in sugar. The fruit is the food I look most forward to whenever I am there. I think the best mangoes come from the Philippines. No where else are the mangoes as incredibly sweet and delicious as they are there.

    Boodle Fight in Taal, Batangas, Philippines
  3. Relax & rejuvenate. With so many beautiful beaches and so much good food, there’s nothing better than just relaxing.  You can get an hour long massage for 350 Pesos/hour at most of the places which is around 8 US dollars.  The massages, the beaches, and the incredible hospitality of everyone in the Philippines makes it the perfect place to rejuvenate the mind, body, and soul.

    Where I got a relaxing massage in Punta Fuego, Batangas, Philippines 
  4. No language barrier. Over 90% of the country speaks English and it is the official language of the government and the preference for written communication. The official language, Tagalog, shares the same alphabet we use in English with a few differences so this makes it easy to read signs when traveling.

    Sign outside Fort Santiago, Intramuros, Manila, Philippines
  5. The culture. The tourism slogan for the Philippines is “it’s more fun in the Philippines.” Filipinos are extremely hospitable and always offering you food to eat and a place to stay so you will always feel welcome wherever you go. Forbes listed the Philippines as one of the world’s friendliest cities in the world. There is such a mix of so many different cultures that make up the Filipino culture. You can see a lot of the influence of the Spanish and American culture. There is so much history to encounter throughout the Philippines from the remnants of World War II to the cross that Ferdinand Magellan brought with him when he brought Catholicism to the islands. The food, loyalty to family, love for music, dancing, and food make the Philippines one big celebration all the time.

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    Calle Crisologo.. A UNESCO heritage site. Spanish colonial street in Vigan, Philippines

So if you are considering where to travel next, I hope I’ve persuaded you to consider the Philippines. It’s more fun in the Philippines!



Surviving the Newborn Days

Photography: Simply by Suzy

Baby boy is officially an infant today which marks the end the newborn stage. Everyone talks about how parents are zombies and how rough those first few months can be with a newborn. It is hard and my husband and I were extremely tired. But to add on to the sleepless nights, my husband and I happened to sell our home, look for a new place to live, and move all within the first few weeks of our newborn’s life. It was stressful to say the least but we’ve made it this far and I am finally starting to feel like my old self again. I know every parent and every newborn is different and you have to find what works for you but here is how I survive the newborn days.

  1. Understand the “fourth trimester.” It is no coincidence that the Family Medical Leave Act in the US is 12 weeks long. There are three trimesters during pregnancy but there is really another trimester out of utero that happens. When my husband and I became frustrated we had to remind each other of the fourth trimester and understand that it would take time for baby boy to transition into the world. We knew that we couldn’t expect to be on a schedule or a routine or expect baby boy to sleep through the night when he was just learning how to adjust to all that was around him.
  2. Recreate the womb. Baby was all cozy and comfy in the dark, warm womb and now had to adjust to all these new sounds, sights, smells, and sensations. So whenever we wanted to help baby soothe, we would take him into the dark bathroom, sit on an exercise ball to bounce, and turn on white noise. We bought a Baby Shusher to have one that was convenient to take in to different rooms in the house, in the car, and on the go.
  3. Get help with breastfeeding. I was fortunate enough to breastfeed my firstborn until past 2, 27 months to be exact (yes I did extended breastfeeding but we will get to that in a later blog post). But breastfeeding was extremely difficult for me the first time around. I had low milk supply and had to supplement at the hospital and in the first month of my daughter’s life. I hired a Lactation Consultant and seeked help through drop-in clinics at my local baby store and that made a huge difference. This time around I used the same Lactation Consultant and was prepared for the challenges that come with breastfeeding. I kept telling myself that I was producing enough milk for my baby and trusted my body to do so. But I also had all my breastfeeding necessities ready and I felt much more prepared. I take Malungay supplements which are pills that are made of malungay leaves, which is an indigenous plant in the Philippines. I try to eat food that supports lactation too such as oats, nuts, and my recent new find is oatmilk which I add to my lattes at my local coffeeshop. One last little trick I have is I use this silicone hands free pump. While I’m nursing baby boy on one side, I pop this on the other side to collect milk. Whether it’s a teaspoon or 2 oz, it’s all liquid gold that I collect and store.
  4. Find time for yourself and for each other. It can be a little difficult to find time for yourself with two kids but my husband and I found little ways to help each other. There were days when he would take our daughter to the park for a couple of hours so I could rest at home with the baby. There were other times that I went to the nail salon with my daughter just so we could squeeze in a little pampering and mommy-daughter time. My husband and I were open about communicating when we were struggling and when we needed help. Resentment can build up quickly, especially when you pile on sleep deprivation so my husband and I made sure to acknowledge and appreciate each other. Having a baby is a huge transition. It was a huge life change for me, my husband, and our daughter. We tried to prepare our daughter for the life transition and found ways that were developmentally appropriate for her age.  We read lots of books about becoming a big sister but we also explained that there would be enough love to go around. I always call my daughter, “my heart” so I kept reminding her that when her baby brother arrives my heart would grow bigger and there would be enough love for both of them. We still find ways for her to have daddy-daughter time or mommy-daughter time so she still gets our undivided attention.
  5. It Take a Village. It really does take a village to raise a child. I am fortunate enough to have both my parents and sister here to help us out. But with my firstborn I didn’t ask for help enough. I thought that being a good mom meant figuring it all out and handling it on my own. Now that I know better, I’m not afraid to ask for help. Our first night home from the hospital, my sister (@roxypopzchicago) cooked dinner for us and it was so nice to have a home cooked meal. I also asked my parents and sister for help when I needed someone to help entertain our daughter or allow me to sneak in a quick nap. When my in-laws came in to visit from Ohio they took our daughter for some one-on-one time and then watched both kids so my husband and I could have our first date night. I also reached out to my other mom friends whenever I had a question or concern and I wanted to know that I was there for them too. The newborn days can feel so lonely and isolating when you are couped up at home alone, so I found my village (my friends and family) and I relied on them heavily.  

I am amazed at how much love and support I have received in bringing our baby boy into the world. I am incredibly lucky to have a partner in parenthood and life. This time around I just keep reminding myself to be kind to myself and give myself time to heal. I understand that I won’t physically “bounce back” to my pre-pregnant self overnight and that’s alright. It was all worth it to grow and create this beautiful baby boy.

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Photography: Rachel B Photo


True Tales of Labor & Delivery: A Great Support System


I recently gave birth to my second baby. I had both births unmedicated with the help of a doula, midwife, essential oils, and meditation. I’m sure at this point most people cue up the drum circle or envision me birthing in an ocean or barn somewhere unconventional but I had my baby in a hospital just as most people do.

Everyone told me that labor and delivery time is cut in half with each subsequent birth and boy were they right. I went to bed the night before my due date and at 1:15 am woke up because my water broke. I wasn’t sure if we should try to labor at home but the contractions were coming on strong and frequently so we decided to go straight to the hospital. Fortunately for us my sister was close by and rushed over to watch our daughter. At 3 am I was 6 cm dilated at triage and I was immediately sent up to L&D. I planned for a water birth so the attendants were filling up the tub but my labor was progressing quickly and my blood pressure was abnormally high.

I was in so much pain I didn’t think I could endure it but before I knew it I was on the hospital bed at 10 cm dilated with my husband at my head, my doula on the right side, L&D nurse on the left, and my midwife ready to catch our baby. I felt so supported and encouraged with my birth team telling me I could do it. My husband (first time dad) was unbelievably supportive and comforting throughout the whole birth. He said all the right things and kept telling me how much he loved me and how we would soon be meeting our son. My doula, Mayra from Third Coast Birth, was not only physically supportive through the pain but emotionally supportive. I remember myself saying, amidst the tears, “I can’t do this anymore” but she assured me that I was already doing it and I was nearly there. My L&D nurse helped coach me through the pain and I felt comforted throughout labor knowing that she was constantly monitoring me and my baby. My midwife, Meredith, at the Northwestern Midwives Group was phenomenal. She kept me focused and told me exactly what to do. She wanted to me to channel my energy and use the moans to push the baby out at just the right time, which avoided any tearing. I recall her saying to tuck my pelvis under, curve my back and push from my throat down. Suddenly I heard my husband through tears say, “I see our son!”

At 4:57 am we met our sweet baby J, born on 7/10 at 7 lbs 10 oz. I felt so empowered and so grateful to my body and my whole birth team. I kept saying thank you over and over again to my husband, nurse, doula and midwife because they made me believe in myself and helped me bring our baby into the world. I felt so present during the entire birth and I am still in awe of the way it all happened. I didn’t get the water birth as planned but it turned out just beautifully. Later that morning our daughter arrived and it was love at first sight. I swear I felt my heart double in size.


This blog post was featured on Bump Club and Beyond’s Blog: True Tales of Labor Delivery

Happy Filipino American History Month

A Catholic Church in Intramuros, the walled city, within the City of Manila, Philippines.

October is Filipino American History Month and a reminder for me to explore my Filipino American identity.  Last October I read a book by Anthony Ocampo called, “The Latinos of Asia. “ In the book the author talks about how your color depends largely on your social context. When checking the ethnicity box on applications or tests, sometimes there’s an option to put Asian American, sometimes Pacific Islander, and sometimes there’s a completely separate box for Filipinos.  Race largely depends on your social context. I grew up in a Filipino community in Los Angeles County, where Latinos and Asians are the collective majority.   I knew lots of other Filipino Americans and I grew up with dozens and dozens of cousins, aunts (titas) and titos (uncles) and people who weren’t really relatives but we called family.  I didn’t have to think much about being Filipina because there were so many other Filipinos around me.

In the book, “Latinos of Asia” the author says that Filipinos break the social constructs of race because we may phenotypically look Latino or Asian and our culture is so similar to Latino culture.  From our last names, to our religion, to our food and language. Learning now about the history of colonialism I am beginning to learn more about the Filipino culture. It’s all becoming more clear why there is so much overlap between Latinos and Filipinos. The authors states that his objective isn’t to push for categorizing Filipinos as Asians or Latinos but rather to provide a clearer sense of “how to address the social problems that continue to hinder the full inclusion of the Filipino American community within the imaginary of the American society.”

On my last trip to the Philippines I began to rethink my own identity.  While there my whole family took a walking tour in Manila led by Carlos Celdran, a political activist and performer.  We learned about the role of the Philippines in World War II while standing in an actual bomb shelter in the Walled City, called Intramuros which is Spanish for “within the walls.” It is the oldest district and historic core of Manila, the capital of the Philippines. There I learned about the resilience of the Filipinos and the torture and heartaches the Filipinos went through.  I’ve always known that to be Filipino, was to be Catholic but the history behind this all is making me better connect the two identities.

On a tricycle ride through Intramuros.

I’m pretty embarrassed that I am barely learning about the history of the Philippines but I am learning that Filipinos are the forgotten Asian Americans in America’s history. According to Dr. Kevin Nadal, Professor of Psychology at the City University of New York, “though Filipino Americans were the first Asian Americans to arrive in the U.S. in 1587 (33 years before the Pilgrims landed on Plymouth Rock in 1620), little was written about the history of the Philippines or of Filipino Americans in the U.S. So although the U.S. had a long history with the Philippines (including the Philippine-American War, American colonization from 1899-1946, and much of World War II being fought in the Philippines), American history books have typically glared over any mention of the Philippines.”  I have always identified as a first-generation Filipino American.  But I think I am just starting to learn what that means. I knew very little about the 333 years the Spanish colonized the Philippines or little about the 50 years of the United States Imperialism. I’ve been to the Philippines nearly a dozen times but it was only on my last trip that I began to learn much more about Filipino history and began to appreciate and understand what it means to be Filipino American.  

I’m so glad that I have been able to travel to the Philippines and have been able to take my daughter twice now.  My children are biracial (1/2 Filipina and ½ white) and I often think about how my daughter and son will identify as they grow older.  Our home is filled with different books for our kids to read. I think it helps to show my daughter different faces and skin colors in hopes of slowly starting to talk about race and to allow her to appreciate the similarities and differences among her own friends and family.

My daughter eating a halo-halo, a popular Filipino dessert  (translated as mix-mix) which is also a great symbol of the mixture of cultures that make up the Filipino culture.

My interfaith, interracial marriage has forced me to think of ways that I raise my children. It has made me consider my own skin As a Filipino American mom, living and working in a context where I’m not in a large Filipino American community. I am thinking about the things I have to consider as I raise my daughter and son to help them form their own cultural and religious identity. For now we’ll start with recognizing Filipino American History Month.

Some of our books and flash cards so that my daughter (and eventually my son) can learn about Filipino culture and Tagalog words.

5 Steps for Planning a Birthday Party

My daughter turned 5 this past weekend. Her birthday landed amidst the chaos of moving, home closing, getting used to our back-to-school routine, and getting adjusted to life with a newborn. It’s been a little busy but I didn’t want to overlook celebrating her turning 5. We celebrated with a simple birthday party at a local doughnut shop with her closest friends and our family. It was easy to plan and my daughter had a blast. I do love planning parties and used to be a party planner years ago when I lived in Los Angeles. Of course the key is scaling it all down for a kid’s party. Here is how I planned my daughter’s 5th birthday in 5 easy steps.

  1. Choose a venue: Throughout my pregnancy I was craving donuts so needless to say, my daughter and I spent a lot of those 9 months with trips to the donut shop. We love Glazed and Infused donuts so I asked the shop if they would host a kids party. Unfortunately our local store was too small but they directed us to another store in a nearby neighborhood. It was still small with a maximum capacity of 25 people but they were able to host our party. I selected a 2 hour time slot of 10am-12pm.  For $75 we had the back table area to ourselves, party plates, decor, balloons, and of course donuts!20170924_095357
  2. Narrow down the guest list: The venue basically set the guest capacity for me. I could only invite a few people since the 25 max capacity included both adults and kids. I had my daughter choose 5 friends from her class, 2 friends outside of class, and her family. We had one parent per child attend (although I guess looking back we could have done a drop-off party).  wp-image-618019829
  3. Pick a theme: My daughter and I love donuts but we also have a love for Tokidoki and Donutella. I love choosing a theme for every party. It makes planning easier for me and when we look back my daughter references her birthday parties by themes. 1st birthday Music theme, 2nd birthday: Under the Sea theme, 3rd birthday: US Presidents theme, 4th birthday: Dia De Los Muertos theme, and 5th birthday: Donuts & Donutella. Picking a theme narrows down what party goods you’ll need. I picked up a few donut themed plates, napkins, cups, party favors, garland, and a tablecloth for about $35 . My daughter already had donut dresses and headbands so that made it easy for dressing her up to match her theme.wp-image-871802737
  4. Food: Since were were having the party at 10am we kept it simple with breakfast food. The donut shop had a variety of coffee drinks, juice, and milk that was just ordered by our guests and added to our tab. Before heading to the party I stopped by Whole Foods and picked up a dozen bagels, cream cheese, a fruit platter, and yogurt. The donut shop had three plates of cake donuts (yellow cake, chocolate, and red velvet).  For the birthday girl’s cake, I took 2 of the cake donuts and topped it with a “happy birthday” candle. I figured the kiddos wouldn’t need more sugar so no need for a separate birthday cake.wp-image-1608144846
  5. Enjoy the party! We had the kids decorate the donuts with a variety of toppings: chocolate or vanilla glaze, rainbow sprinkles, mini m&ms, and crushed oreos. They all had a blast creating their donut masterpieces and it was a fun and simple activity for them to do. We kept it simple and it seemed like everyone had a great time. The birthday girl had so much fun and I’m glad she was able to celebrate with her friends and family.wp-image-55198120

I still remember my 5th birthday party. We celebrated at the McDonald’s in our neighborhood and I had so much fun with all my friends and family. I’m hoping my little girl will remember this past birthday with the same happiness that I still have for mine.